How do you express yourself to a partner about a topic you’re not to comfortable with?

Anonymous

Just be honest. But first look inside yourself and explore why you aren’t comfortable with that particular topic so you can be as clear as possible. I always believe that honesty is the best policy. I also believe the truth hurts.

Are you trying to express something about yourself or your partner? What do you hope to gain from the situation.

I feel like this question is so broad and can cover almost any situation. So “What would Jai do?

I’m going to share a recent situation with my boyfriend. I suffer from anxiety, and it’s always very uncomfortable for me to approach him with when I am feeling anxious.

My normal M.O. is to usually mull it over for a few days or weeks, see if there is any basis for my anxiety. I like doing this because it gives me the chance to gather my thoughts and process the situation that is causing my anxiety.

I don’t know if this is right or wrong, it’s simply my way.Then after I feel comfortable enough to approach him about it I will. I feel like this way I’m not attacking him or accusing him etc. I’ve had to time to think about (imagine) every possible scenario/outcome.

We have recently come to an agreement that I would not wait so long to tell him how I’m feeling. That as soon as I feel an anxious to let him know and we can talk it together.

I explained to him my process and and why. But he prefers I not wait to speak on it and let it fester further causing me more unnecessary pain.

So now I tell him what i’m feeling when I’m feeling it. What did I gain? I can release the anxiety rather than holding onto it. And I gained some comfort knowing that I can talk to him about anything.

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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