Is honesty really the best policy?

Yes, but remember…sometimes the truth hurts.

It’s not easy…we all want to be informed, but sometimes when we find out, it confirms our worst fears. So be prepared.

For me (call it woman’s intuition or it could be I’m a nosy ass), I usually know some degree of the truth before I even ask the question. My famous line “Babe, just tell me the truth, I won’t get mad” has been said probably over 1000 times. Do I get mad, yes, but not as mad as I probably would have if I didn’t overthink the situation to death. But more than mad, I’m hurt.

There have been times my fiance and I will be being going through a difficult period, things are always exposed during the worst of times mostly because I do a lot of hounding and harassing (and I am not afraid to admit it) because I’m already feeling raw but need the band-aid ripped off the wound I created by overthinking.

That one tear slips out from my eye that I was trying so hard to hold in and he says something like ” Women always say they want someone to tell them the truth but get mad when you do”….Yea I wanted the truth, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. FYI, I’m not talking about infidelity, that’s next level truth in which if he ever has that type of truth to tell me he better not be standing next to an open window, anything sharp, anything dull, breathing….etc.

But honestly, I’d rather be hurt by the truth than comforted by lies. Especially because lies are always exposed at some point. If you tell me the truth, there is a chance we can work through it. But if you tell me a lie, it makes it harder to believe you and after that everything is questionable.

Just tell the truth, give them the choice whether they want to accept it or not. Whatever you do though, do not make the choice for them by being deceitful. It’s unfair. And in a sense you have won by default.

But I think the better question might be, why do something that you know can hurt your partner in the first place?

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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