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What would mom do?

What would mom do?

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Everyday I lay in the same spot you did wondering how many days and nights you stared up at the ceiling or out the window wishing your mother was here to guide you. I wish you were here.

I’m an emotional mess these days, but I don’t have to tell you that, you can see everything. I know you see periods of me forgetting to eat or softening my pain with alcohol. Taking sleeping pills that don’t work to fall into a sleep that never comes. Sleep I so desperately need to fill the gaps of loneliness and uncertainty that never seemed to close.

If you knew everything that you knew when you died…would you still have done it all the exact same way? I believe I would but with exceptions, I would not have stayed in such terrible relationships for as long as I did, accepting so little of what I deserved. Maybe I would have found love sooner and not have wasted what was the last of my precious childbearing years.

School, I would have definitely finished school and gotten my degree in social work. I probably still would not be living in a penthouse but I may be in a more comfortable financial situation than I am now. BTW, do you remember why I told you I wanted to live in a penthouse? It was because dad is afraid of heights and I could hide from him there. Look at me now.

I don’t mean to sound sad, but I am. My life is different now and I’m not sure I have the strength for anymore change. Losing you was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through and nothing, not any relationship, friendship nor any job on earth will top the the loss of my mother, not a one. And just because it is natural order, doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.

Actually, the loss of one of my children would be worse and that is something I hope I never have to live through fore I would cut out my own beating heart just to give it to them.

How did you do it? Daily life, juggling everything that was important to you and everything that your family needed? Did you ever have a hard time asking for the things you needed? Did you ever want to run away? I did…I have and it was the hardest decision I made in my relationship with H.

I didn’t even really mean to run away, it all happened so fast that it actually felt like it was a dream, swiftly yet I moved in slow motion as my heart raced, wondering if I made the right decision. Was it worth it? I dunno, a lot could have transpired over the 48 hours we were apart and although I did not get the result I had hoped for I did get sometime to do some soul searching.

I felt brave and strong and yes scared. But there was an unbelievable calmness that came over me as I examined my life from all angles.

No couple is perfect, we’re no exception. I’m trying to find my voice and speak up for what I want before it becomes what I wanted. The problem with speaking up is what happens if I don’t receive the answers I hoped for?

I’m trying to not let my anxiety dictate my fears over facts but I feel like I’m losing my grasp. I’m incredibly broken right now.

Do I believe we’re soulmates? Yes, but somewhere along the way we got disconnected from each other. Can we get back to the place we once were? I’m hopeful.

The problem with relationships is that if you speak with your family and friends they form well meaning intentions and ill feelings towards your SO. Once the dust settles and you decide to work things out they seem to be less forgiving. So I’m suffering in silence.

I’ve been relying a lot on prayers and readings these days and I’m thisshy from seeking professional help. So please my dear sweet mother, who had a heart of gold and was the Queen of forgiveness, the woman who saw the goodness in everyone…what would you do?

*If any of my friends or family are reading this, we’re okay. Just trying to figure some things out and get back to the place we once were.

What are the 5 most important things in a relationship?

What are the 5 most important things in a relationship?

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 2 Comments

What are the 5 most important things in a relationship?

In order for relationships to work, it takes more than two willing people in love, it takes two willing people in love to put in the hard work it requires. It takes being able to stand by each other through he good as well as the bad.

Honesty: Always be honest with each other. Even if it hurts. Now I’m not saying to just go about doing shitty things to each other, just because you will come clean about it. No, I’m talking about things like if you have been unfaithful explain to the best of your ability why, if you your feelings have changed, then why, If they do something that hurts you, why. But don’t only be honest about the bad things, be honest about everything. The things that make you happy, sad, uncomfortable. The things you feel need to work on, on yourself and or the relationship.

Trust: Trust is essential but can be hard especially if after being honest about infidelity but it is really the only way that the relationship can be salvaged after something like that. Trust can also be hard if you keep dwelling on the past and making your current partner pay for past relationship mistakes. I know I’m guilty of this. I sometimes make my husband pay for things or behaviors that my ex’es may have done or put me through and he the same with me. Also I feel like (well at least for me) that karma is coming for me big time through him. I wasn’t always a good woman and I am afraid that my relationship will fail because I did have a blatant disregard for other’s relationships. But once again if trust is an issue, be honest with your partner as to why.

Communication: Communication is always the key. Now I want everyone to keep in mind, something I’m also learning myself, is that although you may communicate how you feel it may not always render the results you were seeking. For example, it makes me unhappy when my husband does certain things and he knows this. I’ve communicated it to him several times. He in turn communicates to me his reasoning. I get it, it still makes me unhappy but I know that I at least communicated to him my feelings instead of letting it fester inside my brain/heart.

Compromise: In a relationship there is definitely A LOT of compromising going on. I don’t mean it in a bad way. Sometimes it’s over what to eat or what movie to see. It’s sometimes about choosing your battles.

Forgiveness: There is definitely A LOT of forgiveness as well. It’s true, we sometimes hurt the one’s we love. It shouldn’t be that way, but it’s what winds up happening, even if it’s unintentional. H and I have been through some things we have forgiven each other for. Forgiveness is not always a given, it’s a personal decision but it can be a lot to take on. It’s trusting that the other person won’t do it again. It’s placing yourself in a position to be vulnerable. Its also a personal decision only you can decide if you can live with it. Sometimes the only person you need to forgive is yourself.

Relationships take work, unfortunately not everyone is willing to put in the effort. I for one plan to put everything I have into this. Not because I’m afraid of another failed marriage but because I see something in him worth fighting for. I hope he sees the same in me.

What are some of the important things in your relationship? Please feel free to share below.

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Rejuvenation

Rejuvenation

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It feels like I blinked and my weekend was…poof… gone! For the most part I spent it just watching t.v. in bed, while my husband worked and enjoyed a boys night. Don’t feel sad for me though, my weekend was not without any fun. I did wind up going to my sister’s house for lunch and wedding planning on Sunday, which usually involves a lot of prosecco and a ton laughs.

It was actually a very productive afternoon, she helped me dye my hair and we caught up on family current events. The one thing we didn’t really get to do was…you guessed it, wedding plan lol. But I suppose I have a few more weeks before I need to make any solid decisions regarding the guest list.

This weekend really got me thinking though about how much I really do miss being social and active outside of the house. Unfortunately this usually always happens during the winter months when I tend to hibernate from the cold weather. But since being in a serious relationship and now a married woman I have unintentionally cut ties with a lot of my girlfriends.

I no longer have a neighborhood bar where I get treated like royalty and everyone knows my name. I no longer have painful feet because I danced til dawn on a Saturday night and I no longer have a let’s get drunk at 3pm on a Sunday afternoon squad, and frankly… I miss it.

I didn’t really realize how much until my husband brought it to my attention. I need something to do while he has guys nights, he’s not 80 years old and still enjoys going to clubs etc…but I’m not 80 years old either. The only difference is that while he has been able to maintain his friendships, I have allowed mine to fall to out of touch. I miss my friends dearly but life has taken me on another path.

Don’t get me wrong, I still wanna vomit in a field (not really) and dance til dawn (definitely) and and go day drinking on a Sunday afternoon (💯definitely), but I also wanna build some dreams, make some money. I wanna hang with the girls planning a book club although we never pick a book or actually meet. I want to hang with women who inspire me to do better and have goals of their own.

The only issue with this is that these women are usually much younger than me. Take for example my work daughters, they are inspiring to the core, young and full of energy and dreams. Unfortunately I think women my age (middle) are content with their lives and just accept it is what it is. But I’m not. I’ve always wanted to do more. I’ve always wanted to do everything.

I think that’s part of the reason I feel the strong desire to go back to school and get my degree in social work (that and the sixty thousand dollars I owe on the degree I don’t yet have) or how I try to convince my husband who is interested in going into politics that we need to involve ourselves in community affairs, hand out turkeys etc. It’s ME, I have to do these things, and in doing these things I hope to meet like minded women.

So over the next few weeks I will be researching local organizations and seeing where my heart is being called to and trying to rekindle some old yet valuable friendships and also taking some time to explore my surroundings. My neighborhood is rich with history as well as culture and I love to learn about everything.

So happy belated woman’s Day and here’s to friendships new and old!

Happy Monday.

Good Vibes Only…

Good Vibes Only…

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So, my anxiety is peaking again…I know why but I also don’t. It’s also sometimes hard to find that thin line between reality and imagination. Like I said being crazy is hard, but what’s even harder is trying to prove to other people you aren’t.

I’m learning to be able to trust my husband when sharing my anxiety, it’s sometimes hard because although he wants me to share my feelings with him I know it sometimes comes out as an accusation. Sometimes it is one and at other times it isn’t. Sometimes it solely about him and at other times it ‘s not. Unfortunately I’m still having trouble after all these years fine deciphering the mess that are my emotions.

Wednesday, I had for lack of a better word a “premonition”. I was on my way to work and we were on the phone. As I was crossing the street, there wasn’t a car in sight but I had felt a large impact on my right side, as if I was just hit by a car. I told him immediately, because the last time it happened my grandmother was hit by a car a few days after.

I experienced a few days of heightened anxiety due to other things, I kept mostly silent on these matters because I wasn’t really sure where they were originating from. I have been feeling sad and depressed and feeling immense grief lately. I can’t tell you why, because I’m not really sure. Our relationship did hit a few bumps over the weekend but nothing more than the usual bumps we experienced in the past.

But as things always do, things became more clear and I noticed somethings and then the voices of un-reason began to chime in and fill my head with thoughts of dishonestly.

It started with a phone call, a blast from my past decided it would make a brief reappearance. The details of the call aren’t even worth noting the most important thing is I told my husband, pretty much as soon as it happened. Well maybe not told, but texted I needed to tell him something and as soon as I got the chance I did.

Needless to say he was not thrilled and it led to a whole other conversation that bred even more anxiety for me, because sometimes when he is being less than honest his eyes tell on him. Well, they were telling on him big time and as hard as I tried to not listen to that little voice in my head the next day I had to just dig a little for some answers.

The first place I always look for answers is Consciousness Evolution Journey YouTube channel. She is scarily always on point and this time was no different. I don’t feel I can be open about the discovery as of yet. I’m still processing it and the events of the weekend. Desperately trying to find a healthy coping mechanism because my past ones are not healthy at all. But don’t worry, it wan’t life shattering, relationship ending information, but definite conversations that needed to be had.

As always, I never know how to convey what it is I want to say vocally ( I should probably just leave him 12 page letters going forward) so I’m sure it came out all wrong, which is why it ensued into a huge and very loud one sided discussion in the park. All I really wanted to say is “when you do certain things it hurts me”.

These discussions never last long and we soon were on our way home. I still felt raw and inconsolable (actually I still do) but always have to have a brave strong face, so know one ever really understands the pain I am feeling. After awhile of being home he was going to work and seeing his friend but I felt like it was more seeing his friend and may be work. But I didn’t say anything, I know I didn’t really have to. My energy changed and he knows it, but it didn’t stop him. But something else did and while I’m unhappy it occurred at all, I’m happy it when down the way it did.

When he got to the car it was damaged. Someone had it it hard, on the right side making it inoperable. I know he’s upset, that’s the way he makes money, but I want him to see the bigger picture. He could have been in that car and we would be having a whole other conversation. I might be burying my husband instead of watching the car getting towed. I may not fully understand my emotions or premonitions, but I am thankful for the way it turned out.

Here are a few things I came away with this weekend:

Always go with your gut feelings, no matter how far fetched they may be. It’s always better to say how you feel, holding it in only hurts yourself. Keep myself focused and keep finding healthy coping mechanisms to get through situations I can’t change.

Monday’s just about over but I hope everyone had a great one. Monday’s can set the precedent for your week but it shouldn’t. If your Monday wasn’t absolutely amazing, go for a Terrific Tuesday.

Have a good night 🌙.

Muesday…

Muesday…

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Everyone always asks…WTF is a Muesday? Well, it’s a Monday that’s cleverly disguised itself as a Tuesday. I hate Muesday’s I always feel like I’m a day behind.

But here we are unable to avoid it. I realized I have posted in about a week and besides being inundated with work and life in general, I really have no good excuse. So let’s catch up.

Last week flew by for me. My husband’s birthday plus Valentine’s day ( Yes, he is a V-day baby) was fast approaching and while I had all of the details worked out (his gift, the restaurant, inviting my mother-in-law) I sill had A LOT going on emotionally.

I prepared “Great Heart❤” boxes for our perspective children and tried to find last minute goodies and treats for them and make sure they were all equal (even made one his children’s step sister from a previous relationship). I know he dislikes when I do that, but my heart is not designed to disappoint any child.

Two years ago during V-day week we were going through a very hard and painful time (currently working on a post dedicated that) and the memories although for the most part almost escaped us this year, they of course resurfaced as memories do.But in an effort to create new memories and new beginnings and adventures we didn’t harp to much on it.

Part of the new beginnings was spending time with his mother on V-day/his birthday. It for the most part went off without a hitch. Did I feel nervous? Extremely. She was tolerant of me, I’m guessing because she knew the only way she would get to see him was if I was present. I can admit it now, I was afraid it would wind up being two hours of them talking among themselves and leaving me out of the conversation.

But No, my husband was an absolute angel. He sat next to me and made sure to include me in every conversation. She wasn’t cold to me and she eventually stopped sitting with her arms across her chest in defensive mode. Will we be the best of friends? Probably not, but we both love the same man (obviously very differently) and must learn to co-exist.

Now, onto the big question….did we or didn’t we…go to do that thing??? Yes, we did and I don’t know what I really expected but it wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be? I hate to mention what it was because I feel like the whole world becomes judgmental if you do something outside of the norm, but here it goes…

It was a swinger’s club. Now, we don’t swing and we don’t swap (not that there is anything wrong with it, it’s just not for me) but I guess for me it was out of curiosity. The best way I could describe it was like, Live Action Porn… a Porn Play…with audience participation. It was like a club, but instead of music videos playing on the T.v.s porn was playing.

No, no one by any means is required to participate, some like us just go for the atmosphere and the curiosity. I have to say aside from biggest fear, which was my husband wanting to put his🍆 in someone else (I would have cut off said🍆) . I thought all the women would look like the flyer. You know, how clubs always find the most beautiful people to advertise their events (which is smart) but it makes regular people like me feel like eh (a sack of potatoes). But this wasn’t the case at all.

There were different people of all shapes and sizes and everyone seemed very relaxed and probably friendly if my guard wasn’t so high. Did the night end well? For the most part, we went, we saw, and will probably return. Is this for everyone? Definitely not.

My message for this Muesday…Don’t be afraid to try new things. Whether it’s your relationship or career etc. It’s better to have lived than to live with regrets of not trying something new. Unless of course you are afraid of heights, so my love, my darling husband, this was my version of skydiving, please make sure you catch me.

Go be great!

Is sex about constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?

Is sex about constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 2 Comments

Is sex about constantly pushing the boundaries or playing by the rules?

Interesting question…both.

There must always be rules and as long as there is a clear understanding between both (or more) partners than go ahead and push those boundaries. Although I don’t think the boundaries need to be constantly pushed, I do think it’s fun to try out new things.

I can’t yet share to much info without speaking to my husband but we are planning on pushing the boundary a little bit. No, it is not a threesome, so honey please don’t get all excited lol. Threesomes are not for me, I’m too immature for that. I wrote a piece about it here if you would like to read about it.

But what I am willing to do is that thing we have been talking about for years. I’m usually game for anything as long as I’m comfortable with it. Like I said, I can’t really share to much about it beforehand but if he’s okay with it I will share the R rated details after.

The point of this piece though is yes to boundaries and rules. I have discussed the rules and conditions of what we will be embarking on and he seems to be okay with what I’m asking for. However, he sometimes does have a comment or remark he makes that makes me rethink the whole situation and yes it does make me uncomfortable.

On one hand I don’t know if he is saying such things so I will be the one to shut it down or if he is really planning on doing the things he says…thus now I have a assault charge (just kidding, no violence).

If your shy about how to approach your partner regarding boundaries just ease into it. For example if there is a particular sex act or position you may want to try you could simply ask or if you’re watching porn say “hey, that looks fun, wanna try”?

I know its easier said than done, but what’s the worse that can happen? Now go push some boundaries but also set some rules. I’m about to go harass my husband into something kinky🙃lol. Totally partially kidding.

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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It cost zero DOLLARS to be kind….

It cost zero DOLLARS to be kind….

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 1 Comment

But sometimes I feel like it cost me my sanity and what do you do when you’ve had enough? Unfortunately for me that usually means explode to the wrong people.

I will always be very appreciative when anyone has shown me even the smallest of kindness. The world is full of cruelty and sheep’s in wolves clothing. Everyone has an ulterior motive…even me. But I would never be unkind or vindictive to get what I want.

So that’s why it’s so hard for me to understand when people change up on me without cause. Like, was it something I did ? I think I’m a pretty amazing person, I make sure the rent gets paid on time, make sure everything is tidy and try to be respectful of the property of those around me. So why, why, why must some act like monsters?

You’re probably lost, as I realize I probably have gotten ahead of myself. You see, all is not going well in Jailand. Noooo, its not my marriage, H and I are fine (well as fine as we can be under the circumstances). But we have a light at the end of the tunnel so this period of (I don’t even know what to call it) is just temporary.

So just to catch you up what’s been going on…it would appear our angels in disguise are in fact the opposite. Maybe not demons, but money definitely makes their world go round.

First it was a set price for the rent bi-weekly. They then charged us an additional 50$ for a building key , fine. We were in a jam and still very appreciative of the fact they opened their home to us. Then they raised the rent an additional $150 due to the increased “electricity” bill. Okay, not sure how that’s possible being we are at work all day but ok. Then 2 days before its due reneging the original agreement demanding the entire amount! To top it off, now they want an additional $20 per week to clean the bathroom?

It wasn’t bad enough were still in the living room with only some curtains for privacy? That someone keeps going into our area and touching, opening and eating our things? But now to pay so much more for less than we were promised? No.

I know we look well off but we’re not. I buy my clothes in “Rainbow” just like you, most of my jewelry were gifts, we scrimp and save and use Groupon to have date nights. And sometimes eat Ramen noodles for a week when we have to.

So please don’t ever think I’m unappreciative by refusing to just agree to everything. We simply don’t have it for what we’re receiving, please don’t ever think because I’m less fortunate than you that I’m unworthy of kindness and deserve whispers behind semi closed doors.

And I’ve no one I’ve got to prove myself to except the woman in the mirror. I…we…me and Him (H) have proved time and again we are more than capable of picking up the pieces and building an even stronger foundation.

So here’s to us my love 🥂, and on to the next journey that awaits us.

And I apologize to anyone I might explode and have a crazy tantrum on (Sorry to the lady in McDonald’s and to my husband) you were both “mostly” innocent bystanders.

When does a relationship become exclusive?

When does a relationship become exclusive?

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 1 Comment

When does a relationship become exclusive?

I’d say; when you begin having unprotected sex, but I think it actually begins before this.

Some think exclusivity should begin during the talking phase but let’s face it, I don’t think that’s a realistic expectation, at least not in this day and age. Years ago it was a lot harder to talk to more than one person at a time (I’ll be damned if I try calling you for over an hour and get a continuous busy signal) and forget about photographic evidence, screenshots will have you dead in the water before you can even even bat an eye.

So somewhere after the talking phase but before the let’s lose the condoms stage something starts to happen, where you begin to think “hey, I really like this person and would like to see them more”. And that’s when exclusivity comes into play. I believe your head and your heart make the decision way before your other parts.

Once that happens it’s time to have “the talk”, you know the “what are we?” talk. It’s better to have the talk then to just assume the other person is on the same page as you…let alone reading the same book. But when is it to soon for that?

Again this is debatable in my opinion. I think most relationships (at least for me) have fallen into the exclusive category around the 3 month mark, some even sooner. In fact, I don’t really recall how H and I became exclusive…I think it was more like an unspoken understanding between us. Thank goodness we were both reading the same book. But I’m pretty sure it was around the 3 month mark.

It really is different for everyone because we all develop feelings at different rates and might have other situations we were involved in that might need sorting before we can move on. But I can safely say that I believe a good measure is when you begin to ditch the condoms/birth control.

I don’t think anything screams as loud as I WANNA ONLY BE WITH YOU as loudly as sharing bodily fluids and possibly creating a baby.

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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Just your average Thursday…

Just your average Thursday…

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 1 Comment

Sooooo this happened today….

Walking into 2020 like…..#Newlyweds♥️

Today H and I tied the knot, in a small intimate civil ceremony. One year to this date, on our anniversary we will have a larger celebration in front of our family and friends.

Today was about us♥️, a perfect ending to a wonderful Christmas 🎄. Life is full of bumpy roads, so glad I have my rock to stand beside me.

I love you king,🥂here’s to us and the roads ahead.

**Special thank you to my sister Cee for standing beside me and my Godson/Nephew Gee for being my ring bearer.

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas…it’s back to work for tomorrow 😩 and hopefully back to regularly schedule blogging 😉.

Should you attend your holiday office party without your SO?

Should you attend your holiday office party without your SO?

by Queen Pea👸🏻 ♥ 2 Comments

Should you attend your holiday office party without your SO?

Is there a reason you’re excluding them? Understandably to keep cost down, some companies might not allow you to bring your SO. In this case to be respectful to H, I would make a quick run through, make sure all of the important people have seen me and then make my exit. Unless of course he is working or other wise busy, then I would stay longer. Point being, I would never want him to feel excluded. Would he do the same for me? Not really sure, but I would hope so.

I’ve been to many an office party and while I feel they are great fun and good for team camaraderie, anytime you add alcohol to the mix it can be a dangerous and thin line. Yes, I always drink too much but have always behaved myself. The same cannot be said of others.

In 2012, my company held a large Holiday party at our headquarters. The entire staff from every site was invited and although I hung out mostly with my team it was also supposed to be a great networking event. Well the alcohol was flowing and one of my former coworkers became a little handsy (we’ll call him R) and one of my other former coworkers (we’ll call him F) became really concerned.

So much that he accompanied me home on the train even though I was going in the opposite direction he was. All because R was going the same way and he wanted to make sure he wasn’t going to try anything further. R didn’t show up to work the next day and when he did return he apologized.

I’ve also witnessed firsthand some of the behavior that takes place at these parties. According to Emotional Affair Journey it’s like a “hot bed for infidelity”, I asked one of my former coworkers if she was bringing her husband to the company party, her response…”Would you bring sand to the beach?” I’m guessing that means no? lol. I’m not trying to be a Grinch and steal your holiday fun, if you’re single, do you! Although I wouldn’t advise shitting where you eat! Been there done that. Not as fun as everyone thinks, unless you like awkward situations.

Don’t get me wrong, not every party ends in drunken debauchery if you do wind up going alone just ask yourself is this how I want ____ to behave? If you decide to stay home here is two fun options to liven up your evening:

  1. If you have never watched “The Office” what are you waiting for??? Start watching! If you have, catch up on all of the Christmas episodes by using this handy guide from People and Mindy Aka Kelly Kapoor.
  2. Get a Santa hat and put it on the corner of the T.V.. Every time someone appears to be wearing it…take a shot of your favorite alcohol.

Snuggling and stuff with your love is also another great way to spend the evening. Holiday parties are fun, but there is nothing like spending time with the one you love…Corny, maybe. But I’m still in the honeymoon phase sooo Sssshhh.

Whatever you do make sure your safe. Please drink responsibly and DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE!

Also I think it’s extremely important to add when I say drink responsibly I’m also talking about being mindful of your actions. Alcohol aka liquid courage might help you get up the nerve to speak to someone you normally wouldn’t or say things more aggressively and make the other person uncomfortable. So maybe save the flirting for the watercolor and not the office party.

If you’re on the receiving end of unwanted advances I know it can be easy to want to chalk it up to the other person just being drunk and not really meaning anything by it. If it makes you uncomfortable say something. Alcohol should not be an excuse for bad behavior.

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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