Would you date someone considerably younger than you?

Four years ago I had a very strict rule, you couldn’t be younger than my oldest and before that I had the 10 year window rule.

Three years ago both those rules went out the window.

You see, three years ago I met someone that completely changed my life and opened my eyes to a new way of thinking.

Without giving exact numbers, let’s just say the age gap is twice my previous window rule. But to be fair he looks 10 years older and I look at least 10 years younger. So upon first glance, I suppose we appear to be about the same age.

For obvious reasons, I am no longer “prejudice” against May/December romances, I mean as long as everyone is of legal consenting age…Love is love. But I do think there is a lot to be considered before entering a May/December relationship.

Are you guys just having fun? Great no one gets hurt…well no, that’s a lie. Someone always gets hurt (sometimes both) but that can be said of any relationship.

Another thing to be considered is where you are in your lives, I had already been married twice and didn’t think I would ever be up for a third. My children are grown, so now was the perfect time for me to get selfish, travel the world and just take some time exploring me.

He was the exact opposite of me. He was in the military so he already explored the world, and was now ready to settle down, get married and start a family. Like I said, the exact opposite.

Somehow we made it work, okay it was him. He was very persistent and convincing with all his reasons on why the age gap didn’t matter and we gave it a shot. The age gap seems to matter less daily, we can talk about anything and everything (it’s not just about phenomenal sex). Whether it’s about a human interest story we saw on the news or what up and coming rap-artist is our favorite, we can talk about it. We talk about politics or what character we most identify with on our favorite t.v. show. We can talk about war and peace and everything in between. I honestly don’t think I ever felt this connected with anyone.

But despite being together for almost three years, I still have a lot of trepidation about this relationship. I love him to death and in the three short years we have been together we have faced everything imaginable. But it’s no secret to him I’m afraid, afraid that one day he will wake up with regrets that he wasted the best years of his life on me. That he will regret not having a baseball team of children and wind up just resenting me.

But I guess being afraid in any relationship, regardless of the age gap is a normal thing. I mean you’re giving someone your whole heart, trusting them not to break it. That’s bold, brave and just a little bit crazy at any age!

By The Way, I hate the term COUGAR! I prefer W.H.I.P. (Women who are Hot, Intelligent and in their Prime).

What would you do differently and why? Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments below.

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